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Family Law Issues (7)

Saturday, 07 December 2013 09:03

Another failing gap within child welfare system

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About the Author: Robert K. Pikula is the author, editor, and publisher of the book, “Our Children Come First”. The book is a personal memoir of his life’s experiences in and out of divorce court. He has been a single parent for more than 22 years. He has raised his daughter since she was 5 months old with full, sole, legal custody. He has been in and out of the court system 10 times to keep his daughter safe.  He also took the responsibility to guide the mother’s second ex-husband to receive custody of his child. (Same mother for both children) The last 3 times in court was for that other child.

Rob has gone through classes and served as a court appointed special advocate, helping other children have peace of mind. Aiding the courts of who is best qualified and safest to having the children. He has created the web site www.ourchildrencomefirst.com and continues to write blogs for the site. He has done extensive research with other divorce and self-help groups. With his compassion he has guided friends and strangers going through the battle in divorce court how to navigate their cases.

Rob has also been an artist for over 30 years and he has created the web site www.alp-art-studio.com. Some of his work was in Modern Painters magazine from New York and Aesthetica magazine from the U.K. He has been on the V.I.T.A arts business networking group organizing events in Porter county area. Rob for 3 years was on the board of the Chesterton Art Center committee organizing events and worked with the Art After Dark Gala where he involved his creative talents in advertising and marketing.

Another failing gap within child welfare system

One late evening I received a phone call, Jean on the other line says, I’ve just met a young women that is homeless and she was going on and on about how her ex-boyfriend took her children and left her in the streets. I thought you might be able to help her.

I soon found out she was a victim of the system.

After meeting with her, she explains how she was 24 years old and now temporarily living with a friend. The story continues that when she was younger her mother pasted away and her father did some things he shouldn’t have. As a young teenager she first lost her brother in another foster home and had never seen him again. She had moved to many homes and these foster parents were, as she explains, were just not the best but they took care of me, as she looked down unhappy.

After turning 18 the foster care system did very little as they let her go into the streets to defend for herself. She had no food, money or even family to guide her. At age 20 an older man, now 40, took advantage of her situation and obsessed her whole life around him. He manipulated her mind and kept everyone she knew away from her. A young naive women just learning about life, thought that everything he said and did was the only truth. They soon had two children. But being the narcissist as he was, he had a brilliant plan, to quickly find a lawyer and make her believe she was unstable to be around her children. Then he threw her in the streets with absolutely no confidence or understanding that she was a perfectly normal little girl. His plan was to pretend as if he still loves her and if she did what he said, he would let her see her children.

That’s where I put a stop to his whole scheme.

While listening to her I soon learned that the only thing she was taught was, who is going to take care of me now, in fear of being abandoned and yet again. She had very little personal skills and was very childlike on what she should do next for herself. Because many of the parents in the foster care system did not teach her anything about how to take responsibility of her life and she soon would be back in the system again with her own children.

This is the vicious circle of broken down gaps circulating in many cases as these children return back into the system.

Is this the design of the system to create job security?

http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=125594259

Pam Fessler explains in her article above “The new study — from Chapin Hall, a policy research center at the University of Chicago — finds that those who age out of foster care are not exactly falling off a cliff, but they are desperately clinging to the edge.” 

Then she added in her article statistics from Chapin Hall studies which what they call Aging-Out Stats:

For eight years, researchers have followed about 600 young adults who aged out of the child welfare systems in Iowa, Wisconsin and Illinois. The report finds that at age 23 and 24, former foster youth are more likely than their peers to be:

Unemployed — less than half were employed. 

Homeless — Almost 25 percent had been homeless since exiting foster care. 

Pregnant — More than 75 percent of young women had been pregnant since leaving foster care. 

Convicted of a crime — nearly 60 percent of young men had been convicted of a crime, and more than 80 percent had been arrested. 

Uneducated — Only 6 percent had a 2- or 4-year degree.

http://www.chapinhall.org/research/report/midwest-evaluation-adult-functioning-former-foster-youth

In this link we see a study from Chapin Hall of University of Chicago on Midwest Evaluation of the Adult Functioning of Former Foster Youth.

“The Midwest Study provides a comprehensive picture of how foster youth are faring during this transition since the Foster Care Independence Act of 1999 became law. The transition to young adulthood is never easy, and is particularly difficult for the

Approximately 20,000 foster youth who “age out” of care each year (U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, 1999). Many of these young people are unable to turn to their parents or other family members for financial and/or emotional support. Nor can they count on the state for continuing support once they have been discharged from care. Consequently, the transition to young adulthood is a challenge that many of these youth face largely on their own.”

Children, Families, and Foster Care: Analysis and Recommendations

Authors:   Sandra Bass, Margie K. Shields, Richard E. Behrman
http://www.princeton.edu/futureofchildren/publications/journals/article/index.xml?journalid=40&articleid=132&sectionid=866

This article from Princeton titled “Addressing the Needs of Children in Foster Care” has plenty of information and studies in the care of the different ages of children today in the system and one of their recommendations was, “States should use existing programs to provide specialized services for children of different ages in foster care, such as providing very young children with greater access to early-childhood preschool programs, and providing older children with educational and transitional supports until age 21.”

It is obvious that many of these children were not guided or explained how they can use any benefits from the state when their doors were closed, and the only thing they knew were – who is going to take care of them next. Confused and lost, shortly after time these children will be back in the system preparing to understand why their children are now in foster care.

Links of other articles with this concern:

March/April 2012 Issue - Aging Out of Foster Care

By Lindsey Getz -Social Work Today - Vol. 12 No. 2 P. 12
http://www.socialworktoday.com/archive/031912p12.shtml

Life after foster care in Ohio

Created by Lisa Dickson
http://lifeafterfostercareohio.wikispaces.com

Many in foster care 'unequipped' to leave at 18

Daniella Miletic August 05, 2013
http://m.theage.com.au/victoria/many-in-foster-care-unequipped-to-leave-at-18-20130805-2rai2.html

Assessing the Long-Term Effects of Foster Care, A Research Synthesis

By Thomas McDonald, Reva Allen, Alex Westerfelt, Erving Philivan
http://www.learningace.com/doc/1496043/dd35a790699be7117f8823f7d3bad296/foc142g
About the Author: Robert K. Pikula is the author, editor, and publisher of the book, “Our Children Come First”. The book is a personal memoir of his life’s experiences in and out of divorce court. He has been a single parent for more than 22 years. He has raised his daughter since she was 5 months old with full, sole, legal custody. He has been in and out of the court system 10 times to keep his daughter safe.  He also took the responsibility to guide the mother’s second ex-husband to receive custody of his child. (Same mother for both children) The last 3 times in court was for that other child.

Rob has gone through classes and served as a court appointed special advocate, helping other children have peace of mind. Aiding the courts of who is best qualified and safest to having the children. He has created the web site www.ourchildrencomefirst.com and continues to write blogs for the site. He has done extensive research with other divorce and self-help groups. With his compassion he has guided friends and strangers going through the battle in divorce court how to navigate their cases.

Rob has also been an artist for over 30 years and he has created the web site www.alp-art-studio.com. Some of his work was in Modern Painters magazine from New York and Aesthetica magazine from the U.K. He has been on the V.I.T.A arts business networking group organizing events in Porter county area. Rob for 3 years was on the board of the Chesterton Art Center committee organizing events and worked with the Art After Dark Gala where he involved his creative talents in advertising and marketing.
Sunday, 29 September 2013 08:14

“Are Families Losing the Battle With CPS?”

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About the Author: Robert K. Pikula is the author, editor, and publisher of the book, “Our Children Come First”. The book is a personal memoir of his life’s experiences in and out of divorce court. He has been a single parent for more than 22 years. He has raised his daughter since she was 5 months old with full, sole, legal custody. He has been in and out of the court system 10 times to keep his daughter safe.  He also took the responsibility to guide the mother’s second ex-husband to receive custody of his child. (Same mother for both children) The last 3 times in court was for that other child.

Rob has gone through classes and served as a court appointed special advocate, helping other children have peace of mind. Aiding the courts of who is best qualified and safest to having the children. He has created the web site www.ourchildrencomefirst.com and continues to write blogs for the site. He has done extensive research with other divorce and self-help groups. With his compassion he has guided friends and strangers going through the battle in divorce court how to navigate their cases.

Rob has also been an artist for over 30 years and he has created the web site www.alp-art-studio.com. Some of his work was in Modern Painters magazine from New York and Aesthetica magazine from the U.K. He has been on the V.I.T.A arts business networking group organizing events in Porter county area. Rob for 3 years was on the board of the Chesterton Art Center committee organizing events and worked with the Art After Dark Gala where he involved his creative talents in advertising and marketing.

Thursday, 05 September 2013 11:34

Undermining the American Family

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About the Author: Dianna is a nationally recognized expert on families, stepfamilies, and divorce related issues. Dianna is an authority on domestic policy as it pertains to men, women and children. A long time political analyst, lobbyist, and spokesperson, Dianna has testified all over the country on legislation that affects families and served as the Chairman of the Family Law Reform Committee in Los Angeles, CA. 
 
Dianna has made numerous local and national television appearances, including the Today Show, The John Walsh Show, CNN, CNN Financial Network, Fox News Live, Montel Williams, MSNBC, and more. She's made hundreds of radio appearances, including NPR, Radio America, Talk America, ABC Radio, CBS Radio, BBC, the Jim Bohannon Show, the Dennis Prager Show, the Mike Gallagher Show, the John & Ken Show, the Bill Handel Show, the Jason Lewis Show, Tom Leykis Show, and more. 
 
Dianna has written columns for or been quoted in hundreds of major newspapers and magazines, including Time Magazine, Redbook, the ABA Journal, Playboy, Smart Money, Black Enterprise, Insight magazine, USA Today, Chicago Tribune, Los Angeles Times, Newsday, Orange County Register, Detroit News, Washington Times, Boston Globe, Philadelphia Inquirer, Washington Post, Newark Star Ledger, Miami Herald, Minneapolis Star Tribune, Christian Science Monitor, Arkansas Democrat Gazette, Sacramento Bee, Tulsa World, Houston Chronicle, San Diego Union Tribune, Pittsburgh Post-Gazette, New York Sun Times, Chicago Sun Times, Cincinnati Post, Seattle Times, and the Associated Press. 
 
Dianna is the former editor of Fathers & Families magazine and former Radio Show Host of a weekly radio show broadcasted in 40 markets on Radio America out of Washington DC. Dianna authored the social policy article "Child Support and Second Families" in the book "Choices in Relationships: An Introduction to Marriage and the Family" published by Wadsworth Publishing Company.  Visit her Facebook page - click here 
  
Article originally appeared in Human Events - Jan. 27, 2002
 
Glenn Sacks, MA is a columnist and media commentator who focuses primarily on gender issues and family law.  His website http://www.glennsacks.com
About the Author: Dianna is a nationally recognized expert on families, stepfamilies, and divorce related issues. Dianna is an authority on domestic policy as it pertains to men, women and children. A long time political analyst, lobbyist, and spokesperson, Dianna has testified all over the country on legislation that affects families and served as the Chairman of the Family Law Reform Committee in Los Angeles, CA. 
 
Dianna has made numerous local and national television appearances, including the Today Show, The John Walsh Show, CNN, CNN Financial Network, Fox News Live, Montel Williams, MSNBC, and more. She's made hundreds of radio appearances, including NPR, Radio America, Talk America, ABC Radio, CBS Radio, BBC, the Jim Bohannon Show, the Dennis Prager Show, the Mike Gallagher Show, the John & Ken Show, the Bill Handel Show, the Jason Lewis Show, Tom Leykis Show, and more. 
 
Dianna has written columns for or been quoted in hundreds of major newspapers and magazines, including Time Magazine, Redbook, the ABA Journal, Playboy, Smart Money, Black Enterprise, Insight magazine, USA Today, Chicago Tribune, Los Angeles Times, Newsday, Orange County Register, Detroit News, Washington Times, Boston Globe, Philadelphia Inquirer, Washington Post, Newark Star Ledger, Miami Herald, Minneapolis Star Tribune, Christian Science Monitor, Arkansas Democrat Gazette, Sacramento Bee, Tulsa World, Houston Chronicle, San Diego Union Tribune, Pittsburgh Post-Gazette, New York Sun Times, Chicago Sun Times, Cincinnati Post, Seattle Times, and the Associated Press. 
 
Dianna is the former editor of Fathers & Families magazine and former Radio Show Host of a weekly radio show broadcasted in 40 markets on Radio America out of Washington DC. Dianna authored the social policy article "Child Support and Second Families" in the book "Choices in Relationships: An Introduction to Marriage and the Family" published by Wadsworth Publishing Company.  Visit her Facebook page - click here 
  
Article originally appeared in the Lansing State Journal - Sep. 26, 2002
 
Glenn Sacks, MA is a columnist and media commentator who focuses primarily on gender issues and family law.  His website http://www.glennsacks.com
About the Author: Dianna is a nationally recognized expert on families, stepfamilies, and divorce related issues. Dianna is an authority on domestic policy as it pertains to men, women and children. A long time political analyst, lobbyist, and spokesperson, Dianna has testified all over the country on legislation that affects families and served as the Chairman of the Family Law Reform Committee in Los Angeles, CA. 
 
Dianna has made numerous local and national television appearances, including the Today Show, The John Walsh Show, CNN, CNN Financial Network, Fox News Live, Montel Williams, MSNBC, and more. She's made hundreds of radio appearances, including NPR, Radio America, Talk America, ABC Radio, CBS Radio, BBC, the Jim Bohannon Show, the Dennis Prager Show, the Mike Gallagher Show, the John & Ken Show, the Bill Handel Show, the Jason Lewis Show, Tom Leykis Show, and more. 
 
Dianna has written columns for or been quoted in hundreds of major newspapers and magazines, including Time Magazine, Redbook, the ABA Journal, Playboy, Smart Money, Black Enterprise, Insight magazine, USA Today, Chicago Tribune, Los Angeles Times, Newsday, Orange County Register, Detroit News, Washington Times, Boston Globe, Philadelphia Inquirer, Washington Post, Newark Star Ledger, Miami Herald, Minneapolis Star Tribune, Christian Science Monitor, Arkansas Democrat Gazette, Sacramento Bee, Tulsa World, Houston Chronicle, San Diego Union Tribune, Pittsburgh Post-Gazette, New York Sun Times, Chicago Sun Times, Cincinnati Post, Seattle Times, and the Associated Press. 
 
Dianna is the former editor of Fathers & Families magazine and former Radio Show Host of a weekly radio show broadcasted in 40 markets on Radio America out of Washington DC. Dianna authored the social policy article "Child Support and Second Families" in the book "Choices in Relationships: An Introduction to Marriage and the Family" published by Wadsworth Publishing Company.  Visit her Facebook page - click here 
 
Article originally appeared in the Insight Magazine August 19, 2002
 
Glenn Sacks, MA is a columnist and media commentator who focuses primarily on gender issues and family law.  His website http://www.glennsacks.com
About the Author:  Robert Franklin is a licensed attorney in Texas.  He’s a journalist who has published essays and op-eds in a wide variety of online and print media including the Toledo Blade, Houston Chronicle, Seattle Times and World Net Daily. He is the Former Executive Editor, of the Houston Law Review where his legal writing has appeared.  He is a ‘featured columnist’ and a member of the Board of Directors of Fathers and Families, a national non-profit organization. Robert has published poetry in several journals including the Concho River Review and an anthology of Texas poets.

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