Saturday, December 20, 2014

Going Galt: Why men are boycotting marriage, fatherhood and the American Dream

Posted in Marriage

By The Daily Caller 6/21/2013

"...But if the benefits of marriage have declined for men, the downsides haven’t. Men who marry can expect to pay disproportionately for a divorce, even if the wife cheats. And as Smith points out, sometimes men are on the hook for child support, even after DNA tests prove they aren’t the father. ..."

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Parenting: No excuse for kids dying in hot cars

Posted in Parenting

By BND 7/8/2013

"...According to a study done by Jan Nulle about heatstroke deaths of children in vehicles, 52 percent, or 288 kids, died in a hot car because the parent or caregiver forgot the child was in the car. Twenty-nine percent (163) died while playing in an unattended vehicle and 18 percent (100) were intentionally left in the vehicle. ..."

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A Father's Love is One of the Greatest Influences on Personality Development

Posted in Fatherhood

By SPSP 6/12/2013

"A father’s love contributes as much — and sometimes more — to a child's development as does a mother's love. That is one of many findings in a new large-scale analysis of research about the power of parental rejection and acceptance in shaping our personalities as children and into adulthood."

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Healthy divorce: How to make your split as Smooth as Possible

Posted in Divorce

By American Psychological Association

"...No one enters into a marriage expecting it to fail. Still, more than 20 percent of first marriages end in divorce within five years, and 48 percent of marriages dissolve by the 20-year mark, according to 2006-2010 data from the government’s National Survey of Family Growth.1 Separation and divorce are emotionally difficult events, but it is possible to have a healthy breakup. ..."

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The Other Side of the Glass: A birth film for fathers;

Posted in Fatherhood



Janel Mirendah

Filmmaker, The Other Side of the Glass: A birth film for fathers; Attachment/Birth Trauma Therapist; Baby Doula/Advocate







Have you been waiting for this?? The Other Side of the Glass: A birth film for and about men was released on Father's Day, 2013!!

in honor of fathers ....

Digital download of the film is available - for sale - on the film website,

Because it is digital you can get it immediately. You can load it on your computer, on a thumb drive and your mobile devices or save to a DVD. For $20 you can get two dowloads to share with someone, and for $50 you can get 10 to share with others. 

"This is so needed. I watch over and over and over as fathers get swallowed in the fear of hospital birth practice. I am torn apart every time I see a father stand back and chew his knuckles while his wife is essentially assaulted or his baby is left to lie there screaming."
--Carrie Hankins, doula

Fathers, learn how to feel powerful and connected again in your relationship -- feelings that may have taken a hit when your baby was born.

I have been told I've created a love story of a film that powerfully and gently opens our hearts and eyes to see how men experience the truly most profound moment in their lives - becoming a father. Through the voices of men around the country, a virtually unknown need of men at birth emerged as men share their pain and loss: The moment a man sees his baby emerge from his partner should be his moment of awe, and this human need is totally ignored and violated in modern birth. And, it deeply impacts his life as a man, father, and partner. 

Please help spread this message around the world: Birth is sacred. It is the mama-baby and daddy's moment or union and must be supported. Caregivers must be the ones to protect this moment. Please buy and share a download today.

Fathers are traumatized by witnessing what happened to - and not being able to protect - their birthing partner and baby. Our culture does not acknowledge men as being impacted by the disempowering experience of modern birth. Fathers leave the hospital - in shock - with a wounded wife and baby, and so:

- FATHERS struggle to know how to support their partner (and crying baby) processing her pain and disappointment from the baby's birth.

- FATHERS have no place to share their story of their pain and loss and joy, and their guilt and shame at not "being the protector."

- FATHERS go back to work, they help at home and with baby at night, and they are exhausted.

- FATHERS feel hurt by the loss of time and attention from partner while watching the mom's intimacy with the baby.

- FATHERS sadly silently struggle with the conflicting, scary feelings towards their baby and fatherhood.

- FATHERS grieve and are angry, and then feel guilty about their behavior around their need for and the loss of sexual intimacy.

The Other Side of the Glass: A birth film for and about men, available now

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In my private practice, I facilitate the Father First (tm) to safely and gently share his story of becoming father, in order for him to reclaim his rightful place and role in his family. When the father is heard and acknowledged, and when he is ready, I then supports him to lead the process of bringing his partner/mama-baby together - to experience their Moment of Awe that they missed. (Chapter 2 of the film).

This process, grounded in recent scientific understanding of the nervous system and imprinting, follows the needs of their baby. It is the baby's birth, their baby's experience of coming into being, into their union. Having their family Moment of Awe brings the family into a new experience of harmony and creates the foundation to create a new peaceful dynamic in their family.

The Other Side of the Glass: A birth film for and about men
Digital release available at

This Part 1 (Chapters 1-6) and upcoming Part 2 of the film will be available through a membership portal, where fathers (and others, such as grandmothers and doulas who also witnessed violence at birth) can safely and confidentially have access to work with me, and begin to process their experience, and lead in healing his family.

Thank you for your support of my film and work, and thank you for all you do to create healthy, peaceful birth to create a healthy, peaceful world.


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